I'm putting this here on a Saturday night because I was basically stood up for a first date.
A little background. Met this nice guy on POF about a month ago. We hit it off very well. Talked on the phone at least 2 hours 3-4 times a week. We live about 90 minutes from each other and because of our crazy schedules, it took awhile to get the first date out of the way. We spent a lot of time texting, again great communication.
So we were supposed to talk about the date last night and he is a nursing student and had to study. Was going to call me after that. Never called. Vanished today. No return calls, no text, etc.
Very upsetting because it was really unexpected. So much so that I was actually worried he was laying in a ditch somewhere (maybe he is, no way to know). Even had my two best friends (also gay) take a look at the last two days of our texting. No indication there was anything wrong.
This is what I text him after not hearing from him all day:
Okay so I'm starting to feel like a stalker for some reason. Haven't heard from you. You've either left your phone at home and went somewhere, are hurt, or not interested. This non communication isn't like you. So I hope you're okay. Been looking forward to today all week. So let me know what's up. I don't recall doing anything wrong.
I thought I'd post this to blow off some steam. I'm not one to keep something with a guy online for too long. I never really cared for online dating. Nonetheless, I understand it's the way many are doing it. Typically, the sooner we can meet in person, the better. In this case, schedules kept us from meeting.
So i'm looking for some general opinions here and have a comment for everyone here that is doing the dating thing. If you don't like the guy, just say it. Grow up, don't vanish, just say I'M NOT INTERESTED.
Frustrated.
A little background. Met this nice guy on POF about a month ago. We hit it off very well. Talked on the phone at least 2 hours 3-4 times a week. We live about 90 minutes from each other and because of our crazy schedules, it took awhile to get the first date out of the way. We spent a lot of time texting, again great communication.
So we were supposed to talk about the date last night and he is a nursing student and had to study. Was going to call me after that. Never called. Vanished today. No return calls, no text, etc.
Very upsetting because it was really unexpected. So much so that I was actually worried he was laying in a ditch somewhere (maybe he is, no way to know). Even had my two best friends (also gay) take a look at the last two days of our texting. No indication there was anything wrong.
This is what I text him after not hearing from him all day:
Okay so I'm starting to feel like a stalker for some reason. Haven't heard from you. You've either left your phone at home and went somewhere, are hurt, or not interested. This non communication isn't like you. So I hope you're okay. Been looking forward to today all week. So let me know what's up. I don't recall doing anything wrong.
I thought I'd post this to blow off some steam. I'm not one to keep something with a guy online for too long. I never really cared for online dating. Nonetheless, I understand it's the way many are doing it. Typically, the sooner we can meet in person, the better. In this case, schedules kept us from meeting.
So i'm looking for some general opinions here and have a comment for everyone here that is doing the dating thing. If you don't like the guy, just say it. Grow up, don't vanish, just say I'M NOT INTERESTED.
Frustrated.