Just wanted to share a truly bizarre experience that is right out of a Seinfeld episode (if you think of it in humorous terms)..... or right of a Stanley Kubrick movie (if you think of it in surreal/bizarre terms).
I met this guy a month ago. We met through a mutual friend, and we hit it off quite well. We went on a date, clicked, and it progressed to the point where I really started to like him. We went as far as going to the gym together, and I even started to help him with his weight lifting regiments because he wasn't too experienced in it, and he wanted me to help him bulk up since I am an avid gym goer and lifter. Regardless, we had a great, safe, sex life that looked like it might progress into a relationship.
A few days ago, something truly unusual happened that ruined it all. He made an elaborate candlelit dinner at his place for us, with an amazing and beautiful setup. I arrived, and said to him, "You look great, your blue shirt is amazing looking". He then corrected me and said it's lavender/light purple. He then asked me if I was colorblind, to which I said yes. He was initially a little curious, but then started to point to artwork and other things in his apartment and asked me if I could see the colors the same as him. I told him obviously I don't.... I'm colorblind!
Then, things got a little uncomfortable. He told me he's seen "simulations" of what I see like and that they look incredibly dull, grey, and depressing, and can't trust a guy who sees the world in such a depressing way. He then went on to tell me that we wouldn't be able to share romantic moments that "normal" people would together, such as sunsets and autumn foliage (we live in fucking LA!!!!!). He said, ultimately, that we are very different "beings" (he used that word) and that it won't be a good match.
WTF?! I initially thought this was an excuse or an easy way out for some other reason, but he ranted for over an hour, and I explained to him that my world isn't dull or boring. I am in great shape, work out daily, and have perfect health in every other way except for my color vision being deficient. He insisted that I don't see "beauty" and can't be trusted. This has actually bothered me because it made me a little self conscious about being color deficient. He used really strong words, almost implying I'm stupid or genetically inferior. It was truly one of the most surreal moments of my life. I left his place and told him, in all honestly, that I likely make up for my shitty color vision for my great sense of smell, because it smelled like he totally burned his green beans.
Is this a legitimate reason to dump somebody? Is anyone on my side that this is ridiculous? Is there a legitimate reason why being colorblind would affect a relationship? I'm a little upset over this, though, overall, my friends have told me I dodged a bullet here and that this guy isn't psychologically well.
I met this guy a month ago. We met through a mutual friend, and we hit it off quite well. We went on a date, clicked, and it progressed to the point where I really started to like him. We went as far as going to the gym together, and I even started to help him with his weight lifting regiments because he wasn't too experienced in it, and he wanted me to help him bulk up since I am an avid gym goer and lifter. Regardless, we had a great, safe, sex life that looked like it might progress into a relationship.
A few days ago, something truly unusual happened that ruined it all. He made an elaborate candlelit dinner at his place for us, with an amazing and beautiful setup. I arrived, and said to him, "You look great, your blue shirt is amazing looking". He then corrected me and said it's lavender/light purple. He then asked me if I was colorblind, to which I said yes. He was initially a little curious, but then started to point to artwork and other things in his apartment and asked me if I could see the colors the same as him. I told him obviously I don't.... I'm colorblind!
Then, things got a little uncomfortable. He told me he's seen "simulations" of what I see like and that they look incredibly dull, grey, and depressing, and can't trust a guy who sees the world in such a depressing way. He then went on to tell me that we wouldn't be able to share romantic moments that "normal" people would together, such as sunsets and autumn foliage (we live in fucking LA!!!!!). He said, ultimately, that we are very different "beings" (he used that word) and that it won't be a good match.
WTF?! I initially thought this was an excuse or an easy way out for some other reason, but he ranted for over an hour, and I explained to him that my world isn't dull or boring. I am in great shape, work out daily, and have perfect health in every other way except for my color vision being deficient. He insisted that I don't see "beauty" and can't be trusted. This has actually bothered me because it made me a little self conscious about being color deficient. He used really strong words, almost implying I'm stupid or genetically inferior. It was truly one of the most surreal moments of my life. I left his place and told him, in all honestly, that I likely make up for my shitty color vision for my great sense of smell, because it smelled like he totally burned his green beans.
Is this a legitimate reason to dump somebody? Is anyone on my side that this is ridiculous? Is there a legitimate reason why being colorblind would affect a relationship? I'm a little upset over this, though, overall, my friends have told me I dodged a bullet here and that this guy isn't psychologically well.