Dear JUB community,
I call on you once more for help for I feel like I'm more at a loss than any other time.
But first let me wish all of you a happy new year!
But now let's get to the subject. For the past month I've occasioanally been meeting a guy that I've started to like tremendously. Problem is I don't know if he's gay. My instinct tell me he is and that he's flirting with me and trying to figure out if I'm gay too. The first time we met we kept a lot of eye contact and would smile a lot to one another before he approached me and commented on how much he liked my jacket. We talked a little more but that was it for that night. Next time we met he was a little shier so I acted flirtier. He was djing at a small bar and we went there with my best friend I told him how much I liked his clothes that day too commented on how good the music he was playing was etc. He seemed to be enjoying the interaction we laughed a lot and had a great time. Along comes last Sunday then. We were at some other bar hangin' out and chatting. We were both enjoying the conversation but then we drifted apart. Next thing I know I see him with a girl and my best friend tells me she's seen them together before. The matter is that although he would kiss his girlfriend he would then just come and dance with me or chat with me. He kept talking to me and telling me he didn't like seeing me being alone (At some point most of my friends had left and I was sitting alone by the bar) . He would rub my arm too or sometimes lean on my shoulder. The biggest hint came a little before he left. He walked up to me and hugged me and told me he felt so lucky for having met me.
So yeah that's it. Sounds like a pretty big mess and I can't figure it out. What do you guys think? How would you react? I've tried to come across as very acceptive and gracious of all our conversations whether they're just attempts at striking a friendship or flirting.
So yeah i just don't know. What bothers me the most (Beside the existence of his girlfriend but that just means he could be bisexual or that he hasn't figured his sexuality out yet) is the fact tha most of the time we hang out together we get a little too drunk or sometimes we are high on drugs too and maybe he over-acts. Although he has never seemed to have regretted anything he's said to me. Every time we meet he seems geniously excited to be seeing me again. But that once more could be just my imagination.
What do you guys think?
I call on you once more for help for I feel like I'm more at a loss than any other time.
But first let me wish all of you a happy new year!
But now let's get to the subject. For the past month I've occasioanally been meeting a guy that I've started to like tremendously. Problem is I don't know if he's gay. My instinct tell me he is and that he's flirting with me and trying to figure out if I'm gay too. The first time we met we kept a lot of eye contact and would smile a lot to one another before he approached me and commented on how much he liked my jacket. We talked a little more but that was it for that night. Next time we met he was a little shier so I acted flirtier. He was djing at a small bar and we went there with my best friend I told him how much I liked his clothes that day too commented on how good the music he was playing was etc. He seemed to be enjoying the interaction we laughed a lot and had a great time. Along comes last Sunday then. We were at some other bar hangin' out and chatting. We were both enjoying the conversation but then we drifted apart. Next thing I know I see him with a girl and my best friend tells me she's seen them together before. The matter is that although he would kiss his girlfriend he would then just come and dance with me or chat with me. He kept talking to me and telling me he didn't like seeing me being alone (At some point most of my friends had left and I was sitting alone by the bar) . He would rub my arm too or sometimes lean on my shoulder. The biggest hint came a little before he left. He walked up to me and hugged me and told me he felt so lucky for having met me.
So yeah that's it. Sounds like a pretty big mess and I can't figure it out. What do you guys think? How would you react? I've tried to come across as very acceptive and gracious of all our conversations whether they're just attempts at striking a friendship or flirting.
So yeah i just don't know. What bothers me the most (Beside the existence of his girlfriend but that just means he could be bisexual or that he hasn't figured his sexuality out yet) is the fact tha most of the time we hang out together we get a little too drunk or sometimes we are high on drugs too and maybe he over-acts. Although he has never seemed to have regretted anything he's said to me. Every time we meet he seems geniously excited to be seeing me again. But that once more could be just my imagination.
What do you guys think?