Hi guys, I just wanted to share my story here.
I am 22 and a virgin. My only remotely sexual experiences (nothing beyond kissing) have been with girls. As a young boy, I remember being exclusively attracted to girls. When I got to high school, I began to look at guys more and thought certain guys were hot, though it was mostly in a straight context, i.e. I would get turned on by seeing girls kissing and touching guys, wishing I was the girl. I still felt repulsed by the thought of gay sex or even two guys kissing. It wasn't until I was in college and developed some very strong male crushes that I began to fantasize directly about me doing things to other guys. The feelings have become gradually stronger; at one point I was so into guys that I began to wonder if I was just plain gay and didn't even like girls anymore (getting drunk at a party with hot women around answered that question). At this point, I feel pretty confident in my sexual identity as a bisexual, and am ready to seriously begin pursuing sexual opportunities.
Oddly, I have not, and feel in no hurry to, "come out". It's not that I am particularly intimidated by it - my family are progressive people who I know would support me - but I just feel like it's not necessary at this point. Maybe this will change at some point, but I still don't see guys as 'relationship' material. I might want to have sex with guys, but in terms of dating, I'm only interested in women, and I see myself eventually marrying and having kids with a woman. I don't think I will bother coming out until I really have a reason to. Part of it also might be that I have a close friend who is gay, and I suspect he is attracted to me, but I'm not attracted to him. I don't want to hurt his feelings by coming out as bisexual and then telling him I'm not interested in him.
I am 22 and a virgin. My only remotely sexual experiences (nothing beyond kissing) have been with girls. As a young boy, I remember being exclusively attracted to girls. When I got to high school, I began to look at guys more and thought certain guys were hot, though it was mostly in a straight context, i.e. I would get turned on by seeing girls kissing and touching guys, wishing I was the girl. I still felt repulsed by the thought of gay sex or even two guys kissing. It wasn't until I was in college and developed some very strong male crushes that I began to fantasize directly about me doing things to other guys. The feelings have become gradually stronger; at one point I was so into guys that I began to wonder if I was just plain gay and didn't even like girls anymore (getting drunk at a party with hot women around answered that question). At this point, I feel pretty confident in my sexual identity as a bisexual, and am ready to seriously begin pursuing sexual opportunities.
Oddly, I have not, and feel in no hurry to, "come out". It's not that I am particularly intimidated by it - my family are progressive people who I know would support me - but I just feel like it's not necessary at this point. Maybe this will change at some point, but I still don't see guys as 'relationship' material. I might want to have sex with guys, but in terms of dating, I'm only interested in women, and I see myself eventually marrying and having kids with a woman. I don't think I will bother coming out until I really have a reason to. Part of it also might be that I have a close friend who is gay, and I suspect he is attracted to me, but I'm not attracted to him. I don't want to hurt his feelings by coming out as bisexual and then telling him I'm not interested in him.
